EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS - PROS & CONS
Love occurs mutually between opposite genders and even the same genders. It is not a replica of what occurs in movies, it is a feeling, bond, connection, and subtly. Love is not an exam that everyone has to prepare for, suffer and clear. It is a strong foundation of trust, loyalty, and belief that ensures safety with each other in a growing relationship. Usually, the image of people in love is made skeptical and such that they have committed a crime. Even if we as humans have made it to the moon, confessing one’s love towards their own family is a task in itself.
The new generation has made everything available at their fingertips with unlimited internet access. This freedom has no restriction and watch, it can be a bane for a few and a boon for some. The growing and booming world of erotic movies and pornography has hyped the concept of love. More than love, it has just become a tool of sensuality and eroticism. Every couple starts fantasizing about that like the movie couple rather than keeping it natural.
Many of us grew up watching typical Bollywood love stories, where in the end everything was sorted and the ones in love finally met. These movies, serials, and nowadays series on the OTT platform have raised the standards of love, friendship, relationships, etc. It has created a whole new dream world for every viewer, making them believe in the quote that “love is blind”. The word love has a wide definition, people love their pets, things, work, friends, family, etc. All this love has a certain extent and does not exceed more than a limit.
Every movie is either based on erotic scenes or has few erotic scenes. Due to this, the young generation rushes to watch such shows on the first day of release. The scenes are hyped up to such an extent that it is difficult to replicate them. Due to such scenes, these movies turn to earn more at the box office, get higher views on release in OTT, have more chances of pirated copies and have more ratings, and recognition in award shows. A few of the most watched and recommended movies that have aroused fantasies in many generations are The wolf of the wall street, Fifty shade trilogy, American pie, 365 days, etc. All these movies get more attention and focus from the youth audience.
PHYSICAL NEEDS - In the stage of puberty, a girl undergoes many changes in her body. These changes include both physical and emotional. Girls should be given proper knowledge about the changes occurring so that they do not panic and be open to asking questions. Menstrual cycle and sex education are topics that should be made gender-neutral and gender sensitive. The first guide of a girl who has attained puberty is her mother and sister in the household and the second guide is her school teacher.
The arousal of physical needs is very natural for both women and men. It’s just that the topic is under the taboo category and cannot be discussed in open. With attaining puberty, one gets to know the functioning of each organ and the type of feeling received from it. More contributions to arousal are the erotic movies and series, which raise the standards of physical needs. The trend of one-night stands, blind dating, and calling sex workers just to fulfill their physical needs has increased tremendously. It is totally alright to fulfill the physical needs till it is respectful and does not harm the dignity of women especially. People in relationships usually attain the phase of getting physical which brings them closer and makes them more committed to each other.
There are different types of relationships which include open relationships, long-distance relationships, regular relationships, etc. It can occur that couples meet after a very long time and just a video call or FaceTime is not enough, physical needs should also be satisfied. Having physical needs is very common and natural in every one of us. It’s not a written rule that those women in a relationship should keep control and those who are married should always fulfill their needs. It is a healthy sign to keep control of all senses, if physical needs override other things, it becomes difficult to control them. Everything looks good and feels good when done within a limit, it applies to the needs of both men and women.
Extramarital affairs are not just limited to movies and series now, it is a very common phenomenon in couples especially, those undergoing a long-distance relationship. It all begins by meeting a person mutually or at the workplace or with alumni or an old crush from school. People usually try to search for happiness and satisfaction outside when they are unable to receive it in their homes. Certain partners also prefer an open relationship when their own relationships are not working well.
Here are a few pros of having an extramarital affair -
It gives happiness and fulfills the needs like physical, emotional, and mental, which were absent with your partner.
Being in a long-distance relationship usually drains out emotions and makes it difficult, while on the other hand having an extramarital affair helps divert your mind from a monotonous thinking and mundane routine.
Extramarital affairs can come under the pro category only when they don't end up being violent and disastrous because, in the end, it is a breach of trust and loyalty.
Not only the male partners but their female partners should also be given all the rights to have an extramarital affair. The Supreme court of India has made it clear that any gender having an extramarital affair should not come under an offense.
Here are a few cons of having an extramarital affair -
In many cases, it turns out to be a violent act. Mostly when the male partner comes to know about the affair, he takes it on the male ego and it mostly turns out to be revenge.
Just because of a few physical and emotional needs which an outsider can cater to, a once healthy relationship should not be spoiled and devastated. Talking about your needs and wants to your partner can fix many things.
If a woman is caught red-handed having an extramarital affair, she is ill-treated and cursed by her male partner and society in many places. The laws and society's reactions should not be biased.
If a couple is not happy in a marriage, and having an extramarital affair they should call the wedding off instead of traveling with the failed marriage’s burden. In this manner, every emotion and reaction remains organic and respect is maintained instead of only regrets.
There are many myths associated with menstruation, sex education, physical pleasures, and physical needs but the ICHHORI website clears it all for all age groups women. The site is for women, by women, and of women. It covers almost all topics that for some reason are put into the taboo category. Every issue, every right, every disease is covered keeping it women-centric.