HOW WOMEN SHOULD TAKE CHARGE OF THEIR DATING?
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That feeling of butterflies in the stomach increased heart rate, and sleeplessness has been felt by each one of us. It occurs from the teenager till the day we survive. In scientific terms, it is tagged as an Adrenaline rush and in layman’s terms, it is Love. This feeling brings people to cloud nine and makes everything look perfect and beautiful around them. Love does not occur overnight; it’s not like you’ve seen fault in our stars or the notebook that you realize suddenly you are in love. It is a process; slow, full of patience, affection, and care.
Love sees no boundaries, it can occur between opposite genders and even the same genders. Accepting and appreciating each other’s feelings is the biggest sign of being in love. Many series and movies have raised the standards of love. According to them, the declaration of the three magical words only marks being in love. It is not always necessary to utter the three words and confess love for the other side. For example, we never say these three words to our parents until and unless we want a pocket-money raise or permission for a night out or trip. This does not mean we do not love them; it exists but isn’t uttered.
Love is a mutual feeling and begins with affection. It is not a compulsion or rule that everyone has to follow. When both individuals show affection, care, trust, and belief; a bond is formed. To keep the bond alive, regular communication, lunch or dinner plans, FaceTime is a long distance, etc. helps. Even the smallest efforts count when a bond exists between two individuals. Being in love does not mean giving up individuality and following the things your beloved says. Love means assuring freedom of speech and expression to both partners equally.
Both partners are in love when they confess their love for each other without any pressure and high expectations. Usually, the female counterpart is more emotional and sensitive in matters of love, friendship, and relationship. Everything gets very easily affected by women more than men. They tend to create their own world of fantasies and dreams for the partner that will arrive or has arrived. Men usually like to keep it simple and sophisticated.
The book by John Gray, “Men are from mars and women are from Venus” is an entire bible classifying the traits of both Genders lucidly. This New York bestseller book takes us on a tour covering all the aspects one needs to know about the opposite gender. Most of the serious topics are covered in a glee manner in this book, which helps both the genders understand, implement and become gender tolerant.
Men and women differ not only in physical aspects but also in psychological, emotional, and physiological aspects. Men usually tend to go inside their caves when they face an issue and usually refrain from opening up. Whereas women tend to indulge in other’ problems or pain to overcome their own problems. Men usually avoid sharing certain things until and unless it is very necessary. Women already have an intimate group of people where she pours their entire day. Men do not compare their love life with others, they remain happy, content, and satisfied. Women believe in getting one step ahead of their Instagram followers to showcase how much she is loved by their partner.
The modern era has arrived of dating 2.0, where love is met on online platforms at any time and any place without any mutual connections. People have become more inclined towards these dating apps, as they are authentic and a lot easier to chat, with and know the other side than going to meet them physically. In the patriarchal society, women usually take the fact that the first move should be taken by men only, but it’s not always true, if women take the first step in a relationship, dating or committing their love, it’s a positive move.
Women get stuck between being shy to make the first move and some remain to tolerate a toxic relationship, letting go of every torture from their partners. Here are a few reasons why a woman should take charge of dating or relationship –
· Make the first move simply and confidently – it is obvious that making the first move is unconventional for a woman, but if you don’t make it, you’ll end up regretting it. So it’s not a big thing to say hi or hey first. Even if it does not work, you’ll have gained the confidence to talk in the future too.
· Break stereotypes – the 21st century has been the century of women. Many new parameters and standards in different professional fronts have been established by women. On the personal front also, women have been successful in balancing their work-life very efficiently. In dating life also women should take a step forward and initiate talks. This will boost confidence and a sense of freedom, that you’ve taken charge in initiating the date.
· Ask the questions that need to be answered – usually when it is a guy’s first move, the girl goes a bit more relaxed compared to that when a girl makes the first move. When a girl takes charge of dating, she already has taken a lot of effort into it, which creates a type of unseen pressure for what will happen ahead. If a girl is taking charge of dating, she should prepare a few questions like knowing the guy’s past, trying to find mutual friends, knowing his background, etc.
· Be honest about yourself – even if as a woman, you are making the first move, you should always give enough input and honest answers about yourself. The date you might have initiated may turn into wonders.
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