Why More Young People Are Choosing to Stay Single — And Happy
Introduction
Once, being single often felt like a waiting room for love. But now, an increasing number of young people are choosing to stay single—and they’re happier because of it. With mental wellbeing, independence, and self-growth taking centre stage, singleness has evolved from stigma to a powerful lifestyle choice. Let’s unpack this cultural shift and how it’s reshaping young adulthood.
1. Voluntary Singlehood Boosts Emotional Health
Studies involving adults aged 20–26 show that those who choose to stay single experience lower levels of romantic loneliness compared to those who are single by circumstance—even though their overall mental health and life satisfaction are similar. This underscores that the choice, not the status, matters.
2. Singleness ≠ Loneliness
The idea that being single equals being lonely is outdated. Long-term research on lifelong singles finds that life satisfaction often increases with age, and loneliness does not necessarily worsen. Many single people report high levels of life fulfilment, challenging old stereotypes.
3. Solitude as a Space for Creativity & Identity
Solitude isn’t emptiness—it’s fertile ground. Iconic psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, known for "flow" theory, emphasised solitude as key to self-exploration and creativity. Similarly, research shows that even short moments of intentional alone time reduce anxiety and help people process emotions better.
4. Independence Fosters Essential Life Skills
Being single often goes hand in hand with growth in real-world abilities. Financial literacy, time management, household chores, and even cooking improve for many solo adults. These skills not only support overall wellbeing but also build resilience—crucial whether or not a future romantic relationship materialises.
5. Strong Social Connections Fill Relationship Gaps
Single doesn’t mean isolated. Emotional wellbeing often stems from tight-knit friendships, family ties, community groups or spiritual networks. Social support has been shown to enhance mental health just as effectively as a romantic partner can.
Curious about how boundaries work in single life? Read our post on Healthy Dating & Personal Boundaries. To gain emotional confidence, check out How to Speak Up in Relationships.
6. Cultural & Economic Empowerment
Young people today often prioritise education, career progress and experiences over settling down early. In Australia, more than half of young adults now say their singlehood supports self-development. In the U.S., declining marriage rates reflect growing financial and personal independence, especially among women.
7. Gender Differences: Who Thrives More?
Research tracking nearly 6,000 single adults revealed that single women often report higher emotional satisfaction, stronger social networks, and greater sexual wellbeing than men. Women also appear more willing to accept temporary economic challenges in exchange for autonomy (“singles tax”)—emphasising independence as a priority.
8. Mental Health as a Priority
Gone are the days of pushing through bad relationships for the sake of it. Today’s young adults are more vocal and proactive about maintaining mental health. Walking away from situations that feel harmful or draining is increasingly seen as self-care rather than failure.
9. Freedom to Explore without Limits
Not being tied down means young adults can pursue personal and professional development on their terms—travel, internships, volunteer work, extreme sports—without having to compromise. This freedom to explore helps shape identity and priorities more fully.
10. Psychological Trade‑Offs & Awareness
While gateways to growth are real, single life can also introduce stress—occasional loneliness, social anxiety, or even FOMO (“fear of missing out”). Recognising these is the first step. Building intentional community supports (friends, clubs, therapy) can help manage these challenges effectively.
11. Solitude vs. Loneliness
Understanding the difference is powerful. Solitude is chosen rest—and a state of creativity. Loneliness is painful isolation. Many people who practice intentional solitude report less stress and improved emotional clarity.
12. Self‑Expansion Without a Relationship
The self-expansion model suggests personal growth emerges from novel experiences. This can come from careers, hobbies, travel, friendships or volunteer work—and doesn’t require a romantic partner at all. Many single adults find deep purpose in these paths.
13. Economic Realities & Wider Demographics
Rising living costs, student debt, and unstable job markets mean relationships and children are not always practical ambitions for many young adults. Some choose to delay or opt out altogether in favour of financial stability and life experiences.
14. Rebranding Solo Life
Pop culture has embraced empowered singleness. Bridget Jones might have been anxious; modern singles are celebrated for personal strength. This shift is backed up by emerging TV shows, media narratives, and press coverage that celebrate autonomy over relationship status.
15. Practical Tips to Thrive Solo
- Create a community: Seek out friends, mentors or peers who share your interests and values.
- Prioritise self-care: Therapy, mindfulness, exercise, or creative outlets support mental resilience.
- Develop a routine: Intentionally carve out personal time—whether it’s for journaling, cooking or walking.
- Try new things: Languages, volunteering, clubs or weekend getaways broaden your skillset and sense of self.
- Reflect regularly: Check in with yourself—are you lonely or simply enjoying solitude?
- Set healthy boundaries: Being single doesn’t mean being on call—protect your time and energy.
- Stay curious: Use books, podcasts, or meetups to feed your growth mindset and emotional intelligence.
16. When Singlehood Feels Tough
Everyone has hard days, no matter your status. If singleness starts to feel isolating, here are practical boosts:
- Join interest‑based groups or sporting clubs for connection.
- Attend workshops or retreats that tap into personal passions.
- Talk with a trusted friend or counsellor—sometimes naming the feeling helps.
- Volunteer—it reconnects you with community and purpose.
- Embrace temporary experiences—travel, courses or pop‑ups offer fresh energy.
17. Transitioning to Relationship When Ready
Choosing to enter a relationship later doesn’t mean stepping back—it often means being more emotionally prepared. Singleness gives time to understand your wants, needs and boundaries. That clarity leads to healthier, more balanced partnerships when you decide to give it a go.
Conclusion
Today’s young adults are rewriting narratives. Singleness isn’t a compromise—it’s a powerful, intentional choice. Rooted in self-growth, mental wellbeing, and autonomy, it’s a valid stage of life—sometimes temporary, sometimes celebrated indefinitely. Whether solo or partnered, what matters most is honouring your own path.
Want to read personal stories from empowered singles? Check out our Real Stories of Healthy Dating, and if you're supporting friends, explore Being an Ally in Tough Relationships.