Stop Waiting for Closure That Isn’t Coming
By Shree
We’re taught to believe closure is the final step to healing. That if someone just explained why they hurt us, ghosted us, or left us behind, we’d be able to move on. But waiting for closure from others can keep us trapped in the very pain we’re trying to escape. Sometimes, closure isn’t something you’re given—it’s something you create for yourself.
The Myth of Perfect Closure
Closure is often romanticized as a neat ending—like a final conversation that makes all the hurt make sense. But life isn’t a movie. People don’t always apologize. They don’t always explain. And they don’t always give you the validation you crave. That doesn’t mean you can’t heal. It means you have to redefine closure on your own terms.
Waiting for someone to hand you closure is like waiting for a train that isn’t coming. The more you wait, the longer you delay your own journey forward.
Why Closure Rarely Comes From Others
- They may not understand the damage: Some people don’t realize—or don’t care—about the impact of their actions.
- They may avoid accountability: Facing what they did could make them uncomfortable, so they run instead.
- They may be incapable of honesty: Not everyone can communicate the truth, especially if it makes them look bad.
If you keep chasing closure from someone who cannot or will not give it, you risk reopening wounds instead of closing them.
How to Create Your Own Closure
True closure isn’t about getting answers from others—it’s about finding peace within yourself. Here’s how:
- Accept the ending as it is: Even without explanations, the fact that it ended is enough of a reason to move forward.
- Reframe the story: Instead of asking why they left, focus on what their absence makes possible for you now.
- Write your own goodbye: Journal, draft a letter you never send, or speak aloud what you wish you could say—it gives your mind a release.
- Choose peace over answers: Recognize that peace comes from letting go of the need to understand everything.
Moving On Without Closure
Healing without closure is hard, but it’s also freeing. When you stop waiting for someone else to “finish” your story, you take back control. You allow yourself to live, love, and grow without depending on someone else’s words. The silence can be painful, but it can also be a blank page—the beginning of a new chapter you write for yourself.
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