If You’re Tired of Growing, You’re Not Alone
There’s a difference between growth and growth pressure. If every day is another checklist to improve yourself, exhaustion isn’t a failure—it’s a message: integrate what you’ve learned and rest.
Why Growth Starts to Hurt
- Endless inputs (podcasts, courses) with no time to live the lessons.
- Self-criticism disguised as “high standards.”
- Confusing healing with speed and constant revelations.
Switch from Optimise to Integrate
- Keep: two practices that actually help (sleep, journalling, therapy).
- Pause: three things that feel like homework (daily trackers you hate).
- Live: apply one old lesson in one real situation this week.
The Maintenance Month (Simple & Kind)
- Week 1: tidy your inputs—unfollow “should” accounts; keep a few deep voices.
- Week 2: social walks and warm meals; let your body catch up.
- Week 3: one boundary conversation; one delight plan.
- Week 4: review—what helped without effort? Keep that.
Signs You’re Actually Growing (Quietly)
- Fewer arguments you need to win.
- More pauses before reacting.
- Quicker returns to baseline after stress.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to “become” a new person every month. Integration is growth, too. Choose ease where you can; your nervous system will thank you.
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