It’s Okay to Be “Too Much” for the Wrong People — Normalize Big Energy
From the first line, let me say this: your energy is not a mistake. It’s okay—even empowering—to be considered “too much” for some people. That’s not your flaw. That’s their limitation.
1. Why “Too Much” Can Be a Compliment (in Disguise)
Remember that friend who calls you “intense”? Or the colleague who says you’re “over-the-top”? Let me be blunt: they’re often using your passion, authenticity, or creativity as a shield—because it challenges them. Being “too much” means you're fully yourself, not hiding parts of you to fit in.
Energy leaks—when we drain ourselves for people who don’t reciprocate—are exhausting. As one article advises, it’s essential to do a “time and energy audit” and cut ties with the chronic drainers in our lives :contentReference[oaicite:1]{index=1}.
2. Big Energy Beats Blah Energy
Here’s the truth: the world needs energy—boldness, curiosity, fire. Mediocrity isn’t a safe zone; it’s a bored zone. While some argue in favour of “good‑enough” lifestyles, research shows that intrinsic joy—doing what lights you up—is far more fulfilling than chasing external accolades :contentReference[oaicite:2]{index=2}.
Normalize choosing connection, creativity, and being unapologetically yourself.
3. How to Embrace Your Energy Without Burnout
“Big energy” doesn’t mean exhausting yourself. It means setting boundaries, choosing where your power goes, and giving yourself permission to shine. It’s not about watering down your passion—it’s about directing it wisely.
Make a habit of small “energy audits” to identify relationships or commitments that leave you depleted. Then reevaluate—would your big energy be better served elsewhere? Often, yes.
4. The Wrong People vs The Right You
Some people resonate with your vibe; others will feel overwhelmed. The difference isn’t in you—it’s in compatibility. Hold onto the people and spaces that elevate you, support your dreams, and celebrate your enthusiasm.
One writer shared, “I invested my time and energy in the wrong people… then found friends who help me grow, drag me out of comfort zones, and make me a better version of myself” :contentReference[oaicite:3]{index=3}.
5. Rewiring Self-Worth and Clarity
When you stop apologising for your energy, you’ll find clarity. Letting go of relationships that no longer serve you is painful—but healing. Your self-worth becomes clear when you're surrounded by people who value what makes you stand out.
As one self-help essay puts it: stop giving your energy to those who don’t appreciate it; instead, chase adventure, friendships, and experiences that feed your soul :contentReference[oaicite:4]{index=4}.
6. Your Energy, Your Choice
Here’s the mantra: your energy is yours to share, invest, or reserve. The right people will revel in your enthusiasm, cheer on your quirks, and maybe even match your energy. The wrong people won’t—and that’s fine.
It’s not about dimming; it’s about choosing your crowd and owning your spark.
Final Thoughts: Normalizing Big Energy
Own your big energy. Be excited, expressive, bold—whatever that looks like for you. Yes—it may be “too much” for some. But the right people? They will think you’re just enough. More than enough, even.
If you're ready to cultivate relationships and spaces that fuel you, you're already on the right track.
Need help managing your energy in overwhelming moments? Check out our post on emotional well‑being tips for quick breathwork practices. Feeling a bit shook after letting go of someone? We’ve got your back—read more in our guide to building healthy boundaries.
Still navigating your vibrant self‑journey? You might love our practical reads on self‑acceptance strategies and community building energy.