Stop Dating Potential—Date Reality
Falling for someone’s potential is falling for your own imagination. Love grows in the present tense. Choose the person in front of you—their patterns, pace, and priorities—not the highlight reel you hope will arrive.
Potential vs. Reality (Spot the Gap)
- Potential: promises, plans, and “someday.”
- Reality: consistent effort, follow-through, integration into real life.
- Test: Are you decoding clues—or receiving clarity?
Questions That Reveal Reality
- “What does a good week together look like? How do we plan it?”
- “When conflict happens, how do you usually repair?”
- “What are you available for in the next three months?”
Two-Week Clarity Plan
- State your standard: “I’m looking for consistent plans and follow-through.”
- Mirror effort; no over-initiating; watch patterns, not speeches.
- Decide on day 14: actions aligned = continue; actions vague = exit kindly.
Scripts for Clean Moves
- Boundary: “I don’t do last-minute only. If you want to see me, suggest a time by Thursday.”
- Clarity: “Are you interested in a steady relationship with me?”
- Exit: “This doesn’t match what I need. Wishing you well.”
If they improve for a week and slide back, that’s data too. Real change repeats. Grand gestures matter less than ordinary consistency over time.
Be kind to yourself for hoping—it means your heart works. Now protect that heart with standards that make love safe to live in.
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