The Real Reason You Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage happens when a part of you thinks success isn’t safe. That part isn’t your enemy—it’s your protector. Understanding it helps you build self-trust and step out of the cycle.
Why You Do It
- Inner child: Carries old fears (abandonment, rejection).
- Protector self: Delays or distracts to avoid pain.
- Adult self: Can reassure and act anyway.
How to Work With It
- Breathe and ground: calm your body first.
- Say: “Thank you, protector. I’ll handle this.”
- Take one tiny step—10 minutes or less.
Rebuild Self-Trust
- Keep only small promises you can fulfil daily.
- Record quick wins in a “proof list.”
- Repair with kindness when you slip.
Final Thoughts
Self-sabotage isn’t weakness—it’s old safety programming. Meet it gently, keep small promises, and your system will learn that growth is safe.
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