You’re Not Lost—You’re Just Becoming
Uncertainty doesn’t always mean failure; it often means growth. When your old goals don’t fit and new ones aren’t formed, you’re not broken—you’re between chapters. Becoming is messy by design.
Name Your Season
- Harvest: ship, present, share.
- Build: practise, iterate, learn.
- Ground: rest, repair, simplify.
Collect Evidence, Not Applause
- Keep a wins file (tiny counts) to prove momentum to your brain.
- Measure presence, not only outcomes: finished chapters, focused hours, honest conversations.
Rituals That Help You Become
- Morning page: one paragraph to your future self.
- Weekly walk review: what felt alive? Keep that. What drained you? Reduce it.
- Monthly experiment: one small bet (class, club, project) with a clear end date.
Permission Slips
- “I’m allowed to change mid-semester.”
- “Confusion is information; I’ll listen, not panic.”
- “I can let things end without making them enemies.”
There’s grief in becoming: saying goodbye to an identity that once kept you safe. Honour it. You can thank an old self for getting you here and still outgrow the outfit.
And there’s evidence too: people who light you up, tasks you’d do for free, hours that pass quickly. Follow those breadcrumbs. Direction appears while moving.
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