Does Sex Hurt For Women?

“SEX!”. There are so many questions and almost no perfect explanations. In a nation with a population of 1,380,004,385 people, sex is still discussed in whispers. This has always been a subject, of criticism, particularly for women. However, things are starting to shift. We're more conscious than we've ever been, and with that comes curiosity. "Does Sex Hurt?" is a common question. If you're doing it for the first time or just want to know if it's normal to hurt, this article will help you. You've got questions, and we've got plenty of answers. So, what are we biding our time for? Let’s talk about sex, baby!

So, first things first, No, Sex Does Not Hurt! It may sting, feel amazing, or both the first time you have sex. But no, it shouldn’t hurt always. There, we said it. The fact that pain during sex is so common does not mean we should embrace it as "natural." And doctors have named this condition Dyspareunia.

Dyspareunia, or intercourse pain, may wreak havoc on a couple's sexual relationship. There is also the risk of harmful emotional consequences in addition to physically painful sex. According to a report published in the ‘Journal of Sexual Medicine’, 30% of women reported discomfort during their most latest sexual contact. 1 out of 10 people proclaimed having painful sex. Unfortunately, many females believe that sex is inherently painful and that the only way to get through it is to swallow the pain. The contrary could not be further from the reality. Intercourse can and should be satisfying for everyone, regardless of gender. When sex is no longer pleasurable and hurtful, it's time to have a talk with your partner and your doctor. Many mental and physical causes, ranging from emotional distress to sexually transmitted diseases, lead to uncomfortable sex. 

Here are a few instances of probable triggers:

1.There is insufficient lubrication:

Not being well lubricated is one of the most common causes of sexual pain. If you have a sexual encounter that involves intense penetration, the vaginal tissues are extremely delicate and can quickly tear or chafe. You're more vulnerable to these forms of accidents if there isn't enough lubrication to prevent the bits from rubbing together.


Vaginismus is a disorder in which recurrent muscle spasms block sexual intercourse or other vaginal penetration.


Chronic pain in the vulva, the region on the outside of a woman's genitals, is known as vulvodynia. It is generally described as a burning, stinging, itching, or raw sensation.


Vaginal discomfort is referred to as vaginitis. It's caused by an imbalance of yeast and bacteria in the vaginal region. Along with the discomfort, you may detect a distinct odour. Bacteria, yeast, or viruses may be the source of this infection.

5.Ovarian Cyst:

Painful sex may be triggered by a solid or fluid-filled sac or pocket (Cyst) inside or on the surface of the ovary.

6.Intricacies with the uterus:

Fibroids, which can induce intense penetration pain, can be one of these issues.


This is a disorder in which tissue that lines the uterus develops outside the uterus.

8.Having sex too soon after childbirth:

Regardless of the delivery process, medical professionals suggest waiting four to six weeks after delivery to have sex.

9.Stress and Anxiety:

Anxiety can cause your whole body to tense up, including your pelvic muscles. It may also make it even more difficult to notice pain at the moment, leading to more discomfort. Some people face sexual distress as a result of previous sexual harassment. Others may be terrified of pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, penetration, or even pain.


Menopause causes the vaginal lining to lose moisture and become sterile and thus the painful sex.

11.Certain Medical Issues:


Sexually transmitted diseases, hymen remains, childbirth injuries, skin disorders, birth control pill side effects, and interstitial cystitis and tons of other medical conditions may cause pain during sex.

So what can we do feel sex like it is supposed to be felt like - Painless? Well, first of all, you may try several self-help approaches to relieve pain during sex, for instance:

  1. Make use of lubricant. If you have vaginal pain or sensitivity, water-soluble lubricants are a safe option. Silicone-based lubricants are more slippery than water-soluble lubricants and last longer. Keep in mind that condoms should not be used with petroleum jelly, baby oil, or mineral oil. They have the ability to dissolve latex and cause the condom to split.
  2. Schedule sex time. Create a moment when neither you nor your partner is exhausted or stressed.
  3. Take your time. Foreplay that lasts longer will help stimulate your natural lubrication. Delaying penetration until you're completely aroused can help you avoid pain.
  4. Try different positions, such as being on top, if you have sharp pain when thrusting. You may be able to monitor penetration in this position to a depth that feels natural to you.
  5. Simply talking to your partner will help. Tell your partner when and where you experience discomfort, as well as which are the things you enjoy.
  6. Experiment with non-painful sexual acts for a while. If intercourse is uncomfortable, for example, you and your partner may want to rely on oral sex or shared masturbation.
  7. Before sex, take pain-relieving measures such as emptying your bladder or taking a hot shower.
  8. Apply ice or a frozen gel patch wrapped in a small cloth to the vulva to relieve burning during sex.
  9. Several exercises might help to avoid pain but on some medical conditions, it might have an adverse effect.

You may experience one or more symptoms regularly when painful sex is more severe. This may involve the following:

  1.  Any vaginal penetration, including tampons, causes irritation or pain.
  2. Intense sex, especially deep penetration, causes pain.
  3. Feelings of aching or burning.
  4. After sex bleeding, irritation, or distress.
  5. Urinary issues such as pressure or burning discomfort while urinating are usual.
  6. Coitus pain that gets worse over time.

There is no right time to get medical help during these conditions. You may seek help even if you face minor discomfort as long as you feel safe. The diagnosis might include the following procedures:

1.A detailed health history is necessary:

 Your doctor may inquire as to when your pain started, where it hurts, how it feels, and whether it occurs with each sexual partner and position. Your doctor may also ask about your marital, surgical, and childbirth records. Don't let your shame keep you from responding honestly. These questions will help you figure out what's causing your pain.

2.A pelvic examination:

Your doctor will check for signs of skin irritation, infection, or anatomical complications during a pelvic exam. He or she can also use gentle pressure on your genitals and pelvic muscles to try to pinpoint the source of your discomfort. A visual inspection of your vaginal wall, using a speculum to separate the vaginal walls, may also be conducted.

3.Various other tests:

A pelvic ultrasound may be recommended if your doctor suspects certain triggers of painful sex.

Do not shy away from talking about intimacy. Research and talk about these with your close friends and especially your partner. Trust your guts and seek help when you feel like it. Until then, have great and safe sex and enjoy to your fullest.

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