When Your Nudes Leak, Here's How to Regain Control?


When Your Nudes Leak, Here's How to Regain Control?

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Isn't it thrilling to take fire nudes? Sending and receiving them is both thrilling and exhilarating. It's all in good fun... Until it isn't occasionally.

If you've ever sexted, you're well aware that there are highs and lows, particularly when you stop chatting to the person on the other end of the line. Your ex-boyfriends and Tinder matches still have those photographs, and knowing that they're on someone else's phone and potentially available for distribution to individuals you didn't allow can be stressful.

If your nudes have been shared or leaked, or if you're just frightened of it happening, here's how to reclaim control.

Even though a leak is no less devastating, it is no less of a career or social death sentence than it was in the past.

Make contact with the person who owns them.

If it's safe, contact the original recipient of those images and politely request that they delete any hot shots they may still have, even if it's been years. They'll probably say it's no problem if your separation was amicable and they're not a spiteful live wire prone to acts of cruelty. Use your discretion here. Don't call them up and remind them they have possibly humiliating images someplace deep in their inbox if they are still suffering from getting dumped or otherwise displayed signs of revenge-seeking.

Set some ground rules with possible sexting partners going ahead to avoid reliving this stressful cycle. Obviously, you never anticipate someone you're conversing with to turn on you, but you should always expect them to remove everything you communicate. Make a promise to them that you'll erase anything you acquire from them, and make sure you keep it.

It's preferable to know if yours are out there, but it's not the end of the world if they are. You're not by yourself.

Try to think practically

Don't get caught up in a worry about whether or not someone is spreading around photographs of your intimate regions without your knowledge. Everyone has an ex. They're all kompromat candidates. That's how it is. Your images, like everyone else's, are on the internet. Unless they specify differently, the chances of someone indiscriminately selling them are slim. Who, after all, has the time?

You can also remind yourself of this improbability and arm yourself with concrete information on whether your worst-case scenario is coming true in a few ways. Search your own photographs on a reverse-image lookup service like TinEye to see if they've been uploaded on a message board, for example.

The truth is that knowing they've been uploaded will hurt a lot more than knowing they've been posted. Nudes are, after all, the great equaliser; since the introduction of digital cameras and smartphones, everyone has one, so this isn't new. Even though a leak is no less devastating, it is no less of a career or social death sentence than it was in the past. Vanessa Williams' Miss America title was revoked in the past due to naked photos. Jennifer Lawrence refused to apologise after hers was discovered on the internet in the future. It's preferable to know if yours are out there, but it's not the end of the world if they are. You're not by yourself.

Want to reduce your anxiety even further? For a while, turn off your social media.

Danielle, a Minnesota woman, told Lifehacker how her "emotional romance" with a married man came to an end after his wife discovered her nudes in his DMs and threatened him with divorce.

She looked at my Instagram stories and tried adding me to her personal page, then her fitness page, and finally her business page, Danielle, who maintains a private account that requires her to confirm follow requests, explained. I locked down my Instagram, removed everything out of my profile, and changed my profile photo to something generic, she added, to prevent her understandably enraged hubby from learning her personal information.

Danielle's "full-on fear" at the possibility that her digital lover's real-life wife may be able to identify and contact her real-life spouse was quelled by those acts. Since de-personalizing her social media, she's been calmer and more in control. Still, her worries took "a few weeks" to dissipate, so don't anticipate immediate benefits.

Centre yourself

If someone does post your private images, keep in mind that it speaks a lot more about their character than it does about your physical appearance.

This happened to Janely Martinez, a Utah native, a few years ago. Martinez waited a long time to date again after she and her four-year boyfriend decided they didn't want to be married and broke up. They eventually found a new boyfriend and happiness with him, but their ex was not pleased. Long after they'd forgotten he had them, he continued emailing Martinez their own nudes as a taunt.

He was also sending images that they hadn't sent him in the first place. Martinez concluded, but never proved, that he still had their iCloud password and was logging in, taking more current nudes and holding them over their heads.

In this situation, anyone would understandably lose their mind. Martinez took some time to regain their footing, but this is how they did it: "I remember there are so many parts of me that he never knew and will never know." He's a damaged individual who will never receive the help he requires. I gave a person who only knew how to ruin and control things and people unconditional affection. I am happily married, medicated, and in regular counselling since leaving him. To be honest, I'm proud of my body, and I'm not responsible for other people's mixed views about me. It's not my concern."

It will take some time for you to realise that this isn't your business, especially if someone is circulating your images and therefore making them other people's business, but keep in mind that you did nothing wrong. It is the distributor that is at fault, not you.

Know your legal rights and consult an attorney if necessary.

You may have read this far in the hope that your worry of being distributed is unjustified and that it will never happen to you. I wish you the same luck.

You've been a victim of "revenge porn" if you see your nudes online or if someone alerts you that they're being passed about.

Although each state has its unique set of regulations, you'll be happy to find that there are protections in place for revenge porn victims. Start here: The Cyber Civil Rights Initiative outlines state legislation before providing information on how to request that images be removed from various websites, which you have the right to do.

Look out for the specific legislation in your state, then consider going to the police station and submitting a report. Even attorneys that specialise in revenge porn exist. Look up which ones are near you on Google.

According to Carrie Goldberg, founder of C.A. Goldberg, a PLLC victims' rights law firm, an experienced lawyer can assist with obtaining a restraining or protective order through family court, as well as intervening with a school and/or employer if online content affects the victim's schooling, employment, or employability. "When a crime involves harassment, underage material, unlawful surveillance, extortion, or any other offence, we can help advocate for you with law enforcement." We can even file lawsuits against the offender."

She continued, Cease and desist letters, content removal under the Digital Millennium Copyright Act (DMCA), motions against online service providers to de-anonymize user identities, and subpoenas to confirm a suspect's identity via social media sites, website hosts, and/or IP addresses are some of the legal tools available.

In a nutshell, you have legal choices.

However, whether it's over fear and catastrophizing, or a real-world distribution of your private photographs, this how-to is about reclaiming control. You're the boss. You have complete freedom. No one is forcing you to go to the police station or do anything else you don't want to do, but it's critical that you understand your options.

Martinez remarked, "I didn't understand I could do something about it all those years ago." Even now, they are satisfied with their decision not to report it. If you believe that telling a cop or lawyer the information will only make things worse, you must first understand your motivations.

Do what feels right to you, but keep in mind that you did nothing wrong and that whatever decision you make is the right one.

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