What are The Problems you face with being demisexual?


What Are The Problems you face with being demisexual?

Marshall is laughed out of the pub booth in an episode of How I Met Your Mother titled "The Naked Man," for claiming that the only reason people should have sex is if they're in love. The gang comes up with 50 different reasons why individuals have sex as a result of this statement. Makeup sex, breakup sex, vengeance sex, nothing nice on TV sex, rebound sex, and so on are some examples. And, as relatable as they all are, I can only associate with Marshall's. But I suppose that's simply one of the drawbacks of being demisexual.


For those unfamiliar with the word, it was coined in 2006 to describe "a person who does not experience sexual attraction until they have made a deep emotional connection with a potential partner." The term "emotional bond" is defined differently by different people. Demi-sexuals might be romantically inclined in any way." Yes, having a label is infamously a feature of this period, but it may also be beneficial. For example, I've already discussed my own personal experience with this topic since, for years, I had to cope with being the Marshall in a world of Barneys (see the show to get my drift), and it was quite difficult for me. Some may not find this to be particularly dramatic, and I respect that, especially when considering the history and the fight for equality. Nonetheless, I felt powerless as I struggled to fit in, was told I was "strange," and had no idea what to do about it. I was fighting a lost war against current society, myself, and the future. It's only going to grow worse if I can't do this now. So, I reasoned.

Problem #2: Falling prey TO PEER PRESSURE

In a sex-obsessed society, I felt isolated in my antiquated idea of romance. That emotion hasn't changed from adolescence to maturity. The only thing I have is my ability to accept myself and let go of things I can't control. What started as rumors that I was a lesbian because I didn't have a boyfriend as a kid turned into instances where I was told that being demisexual isn't genuine. Peer pressure came in a variety of forms, ranging from being recommended goofy dating applications I didn't understand to being questioned, why don't you fancy him, though? But I'm no longer content to be in a relationship because it's the socially acceptable thing to do, or to go on dates because I've been alone for "too long." I've decided not to let it affect me any longer. Because, unlike my adolescent self, who felt lonely and believed she had to march to the beat of the loudest drum, I now recognise I was mistaken. I wasn't the only one who felt this way. I was concealing my identity in order to blend in with the "masses," as I saw them. In reality, there are a lot of people that think this way. Even with this certainty, there is still a problem: others must be educated.


Before you stomp on my figurative buttocks, let me state unequivocally that I am not humiliating anyone for being sexually liberated. In fact, I've spent my entire life on this great blue marble trying to figure out why individuals view sex so differently. Specifically, I used to be offended when a man approached me with only one goal in mind. To be honest, because of the way I'm wired, that emotion will probably never go away. Nonetheless, I am a really open-minded person who enjoys hearing the reasons why people approach others with such confidence and zeal. That could be why I love watching How I Met Your Mother so much. It fairly portrays both sides of this seductive coin, demonstrating that completely normal, likeable, and well-functioning people can be wired in one direction or the other and still get along. Of course, gentle mockery is permitted between friends, and if someone acts inappropriately in relation to their sexual pursuits, they will be put in their place. But, for the most part, everyone gets along. This is something that has to be discussed more widely, not just among friends, but in society as a whole. So, while I may never want to have a one-night stand, I understand why others do. The same logic should be applied in the opposite direction. Because, regardless of how the media depicts it, both sides exist; one is simply more popular than the other, which brings me to my next point.


The globe has been shrouded in smoke, demonstrating that sex is what sells, what makes individuals wealthy, and what others desire. But this isn't entirely accurate. This make-believe is what has made demisexual people feel entirely alone, regardless of their orientation (straight, homosexual, bi, and so on). Only in the last several years have we begun to find our voice. Instead of being mocked for not being able to find another sexually appealing person in five seconds, we can simply shrug our shoulders and know we're perfectly normal. There is no longer any necessity for deception. We may never experience lust at first sight, but that doesn't imply we're doomed to be alone. It simply takes a little longer. I'm still convinced that a like-minded other exists somewhere out there and that we'll meet when the time is right, even though I've been alone for five years. Because, if I exist, then they must as well, right? Nonetheless, while society is growing more aware of these sexual and romantic distinctions, we must not allow this to affect our thinking.


Some people even go so far as to declare that demi-sexuality is the "right" way to be. Anything other than that is "wrong." In a world full of diversity, attempting to narrow down what should and shouldn't be done in terms of sexual behavior appears to be completely foolish. Controlling how the party plays out is irrelevant as long as there is consent between two persons (or however many people like to attend the party). Nobody else's business is what people choose to do. All I ask in return is that you 1) do not give me an invitation to the party, and 2) do not mock me if one is received and I gently reject. Because calling a demisexual person choosy or prudish is just as disrespectful as calling someone who has been heavily sexed a hussy or a slut. Neither party should feel obligated to apologize for who they are. Neither party should be afraid of admitting the truth about themselves or ashamed of it. It's weird enough in this world without all that nonsense.

This is where the importance of input comes into play. If this problem could be properly simplified, I believe that instead of casting aspersions on individuals who disagree with our values, we should find out methods to coexist with them. We should strive to comprehend the reasons behind the other's ideas, exhibit acceptance of the person as a whole, and, most importantly, help each other navigate through life, much like in popular comedy. It is, in my opinion, the only route ahead.

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