How Can You Teach Young Girls What A Healthy Relationship Looks Like?


How Can You Teach Young Girls What A Healthy Relationship Looks Like?

One of the most powerful subjects you can teach is love. Fortunately, it's also one of the most straightforward topics to discuss.

If you're tempted to start a conversation about romantic relationships with "no dating till you're 30!" you're not alone or completely wrong. Fathers should teach their daughters about the dangers of love, halt potential ravishers at the door, and avenge their heartbreaks, according to traditional thinking throughout history.

While your position has changed and dad jokes about frightening dates away are long gone, there are still some serious concerns to be aware of. Identifying these dangers can assist your daughter in seeing any potentially damaging tendencies in her relationships and assisting her in avoiding or dealing with them early on:

The risks of romantic relationships:

·       Personal identity is lost. Girls can become so engrossed in romantic relationships that they lose track of their studies, lose touch with their friends, and dedicate less time to their own interests.

·       Distressed emotions. Fights, disappointment, and heartbreak have the potential to send girls into a tailspin.

·       Sexual behaviour is dangerous. If girls' relationships get more close, there's a potential that they'll engage in dangerous sexual behaviour. The importance of sexual health education for girls cannot be overstated.

·       Violence in the dating world. Internationally, dating violence, including sexual misconduct, is a major concern.

The foundations of a happy relationship

Some of these building elements may appear self-evident, but you can't assume your daughter will figure them out quickly. Giving her the fundamentals can make a big impact, saving her time and reducing confusion and heartbreak. Here are some qualities that characterise good relationships:

·       The majority of the time, partners in a relationship are happy and fulfilled.

·       There are strong sentiments of psychological security and delight, with little drama or jealousy.

·       Partners are comfortable with each other. They are not under any need to alter their looks, values, interests, or other personal features.

·       Partners preserve their individual identities and activities while remaining focused on their individual objectives and duties, treating their relationship as a minor aspect of their lives.

·       Not only do partners have a deep emotional bond, but they also have a strong bodily bond.

·       To voice limits, create trust, and resolve disputes swiftly, partners talk frankly and directly.

·       Partners complement one other's self-esteem by speaking and acting respectfully to one another.

·       Physical violence does not exist between partners.

·       Partners conclude their relationships in a courteous manner.

Red flags in relationships

This conversation should also include a discussion of potential red flags. Here are some warning indicators that your daughter should watch out for:

·       Feeling as if a love partner is overly envious.

·       When a romantic partner is controlling or tries to dictate what their significant other is permitted to do, where they are allowed to go, and who they are allowed to spend time with outside of the relationship.

·       A romantic partner feels guilty, as if they are unable of doing anything right, or as if they are frequently "in trouble" with their romantic partner.

·       Any form of bodily harm or fear of bodily harm.

·       Sexual violence of any kind.

Common concerns and inquiries among girls

1. Why does it appear like "everyone is involved in a relationship?"

Explain that your daughter can feel like she's the only one who isn't in a relationship for a variety of reasons. It's all too easy to get caught up in what others have. Many films representing life in middle and high school centre on a love story, giving the impression that having a relationship in your adolescent years is something that must or should always occur. And the music that girls listen to and the Netflix episodes that they binge-watch glorify and showcase romantic relationships. Because our culture places such a high priority on partnerships, it's understandable that she could feel like the lone single person at times.

Make sure she understands that most individuals start dating after high school and that relationships don't always happen when we want them to. It's all about connecting with the right person at the right time when it comes to relationships. Also, make sure she understands that she is not alone in feeling like she is the only one without a significant other. Her time with someone will come, and the wait will be well worth it.

You're making her feel heard, honouring her sentiments, and soothing her with this technique, while simultaneously providing data to back up a different point of view. She might not be in the mood to think about her predicament from a new perspective right now, but she might reconsider later.

What is the best way to start a relationship?

This is a typical question among females. Mention that relationships can start in a variety of ways. Assist her in seeing the value of spending time with individuals who make her happy, calm, and confident. Girls can get caught up in crushes who don't share their feelings or are interested in other individuals.

Encourage your daughter to pay close attention during these times, noticing whether or not certain crushes and relationships make her happy. Explain that while you may not always be able to select how you feel or who you are attracted to, you can always shift your focus to individuals with whom you feel at ease and who value you.

Things I'd like to say:

·       I adore you.

·       The importance of love in one's life cannot be overstated.

·       Healthy relationships can be a pleasurable and fulfilling aspect of life.

·       Although it may appear that everyone else is in a relationship, this is not the reality.

·       Relationships should bring you inner calm and confidence rather than cause concern.

·       Never feel obligated to alter or be uncomfortable in order to make someone else happy.

·       Trust your instincts when it comes to someone.

·       Genuine love is not marked by jealousy, domineering behaviours, or violence.

·       Be sincere and caring in your interactions.

Things not to say:

·       You don't start dating till you're 30 years old.

·       Relationships aren't important right now; concentrate on your studies and friendships.

·       You're not old enough to fall in love.

·       You have no idea what love is.

·       Relationships are never successful.

·       Every man is a dog.

Question to ponder:

In a song, a TV show, or a movie, the subject of love and relationships comes up. Ask:

·       Do you believe they're talking about love in a realistic way?

·       Do you believe that the media creates reasonable expectations for real-life relationships?

·       Do you believe the media has an impact on how your friends perceive love and relationships? How?

·       Which TV or movie pairings do you think are the most realistic? Why?

In your company, your daughter and her pals are discussing crushes and/or significant people. Later, ask: 

·       Do you believe the majority of people you know who are in relationships are happy? Or do people become engrossed in the drama?

·       Do you have the impression that your friends are always respectful and considerate when discussing other people's relationships?

·       What do you believe the best aspects of partnerships are right now?

·       What aspect of partnerships fascinates you the most?

Your daughter appears to be in a happy relationship.

·       What is your favourite thing of him/her?

·       Is there any way you think being in this relationship is beneficial to you?

·       What do you think you've learnt about relationships thus far?

·       What are the greatest ways for you and your partner to communicate?

Modelling appropriate relational behaviours goes beyond the discourse

The example you set when it comes to training your daughter to recognise healthy relationships and apply healthy relationship methods is crucial. You don't have to be flawless, but you should model the habits you want your daughter to develop whenever possible, even when things are difficult. Demonstrate teach her what it is to treat others with respect and to resolve conflicts in a compassionate manner. If you have a love partner, be aware of the need of maintaining healthy relationship dynamics. Because of your acts and behaviours, your daughter will notice and create expectations for her interactions.

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