How to Talk to Your Parents About Therapy
Introduction: Why This Conversation Matters
Deciding to see a therapist is a powerful step forward—but talking to your parents or guardians about it can feel daunting. Many teens worry about judgment, family history, or cultural stigma. Yet, as a child and adolescent psychologist points out, your parents likely want what’s best for you—and may simply not know how to help you start ([turn0news21] – Becky Lois, NYU).
1. Prepare Yourself: Know Why You Want Therapy
- Clarify your reasons: Write down what’s bothering you—stress, anxiety, feelings of overwhelm, concentration issues at school, or changes in sleep or appetite ([turn0search12]).
- Use “I” statements: Say things like “I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately,” or “I think talking to someone could help.” This puts your feelings at the centre, not blame on anyone.
- Choose a calm time: Avoid starting the conversation during an argument or a crisis. Instead, schedule a quiet moment—after dinner or on the weekend—when everyone is relaxed and focused ([turn0search12]).
2. Frame Therapy as a Positive Resource
Normalize therapy: liken it to visiting a doctor for a physical ailment. Tell your parents it’s an extra support tool, not a sign of failure. For example:
“Therapy is just like going to the doctor when you have a fever. I think talking could help me feel better and manage my stress.”
This open, nonjudgmental framing helps reduce stigma and calm fears around mental health treatment ([turn0search9], [turn0search12]).
3. Let Them Ask Questions—and Listen Carefully
Your parents may worry about privacy, cost, or how therapy works. Anticipate these concerns:
- “Will the therapist judge me?” – Reassure them therapists are neutral, trained to listen, and strictly maintain confidentiality ([turn0news19]).
- “How much does it cost?” – Offer to research affordable options like school counsellors, sliding-scale clinics, or telehealth services ([turn0news18]).
Answering calmly and factually reassures them you’ve thought this through.
4. Offer Choices—and Show Respect for Their Role
Suggest a few therapist options and invite them to help you choose. Mention your preferences—for example, a therapist who understands teen issues or shares your cultural background (“I’d feel more comfortable talking with someone who understands us”).
This invites your parents into the conversation and shows you value their input and support ([turn0search1], [turn0search7]).
5. Maintain Privacy While Respecting Family Involvement
Therapy sessions are meant to be confidential, especially for teens. Explain: