Stop Romanticising Chaos
Why You Deserve Peace, Not Drama in Life
If the highs are dizzying and the lows are destructive, it’s not chemistry—it’s chaos. Many of us mistake intensity for intimacy because it feels familiar or “movie-like.” But peace isn’t boring. Peace is safe, steady, and sustainable—exactly what nervous systems call home.
Why Chaos Hooks You
Chaos gives quick dopamine hits: unpredictable texts, dramatic reunions, love-bombing after conflict. Stability can feel unfamiliar if you grew up equating love with uncertainty. But healing means redefining “spark” as safety, not stress.
Red Flags You’re Romanticising Drama
- Conflicts are cyclical with no repair—only “make-up” highs.
- Clarity feels “dull,” while anxiety feels like proof you care.
- Your routines, sleep, or friendships suffer to maintain the rollercoaster.
Peace-First Practices
- Choose predictable: Consistency is a green flag, not a yawn.
- Repair over repeat: After conflict, ask: “What changes moving forward?”
- Body check: If your stomach drops more than your heart lifts, step back.
- Protect your calendar: Schedule rest; treat it as non-negotiable.
Related: Boundaries
Rewriting the Love Story
Swap chaos for care, intensity for intimacy, unpredictability for honesty. Peace won’t demand a performance—only presence.
Also read: Mental Health
Labels: Mental Health, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Care, Healing