Why “Slow Love” Might Be Your Next Move
Want fewer situationships and more security? Try slow love—a pace that prioritises clarity, safety, and real compatibility over sparks and speed.
What Slow Love Looks Like
- Fewer dates, deeper conversations.
- Define timelines: exclusivity, labels, meeting friends—when and why.
- Share emotional capacity (workload, mental health, energy) early.
Benefits of Pacing
- Less anxiety, more stability.
- Values alignment emerges before chemistry blinds you.
- Red flags surface without the rush haze.
Questions for Slow Love Dates
- “What does a good week look like for you?”
- “How do you handle conflict or stress?”
- “What kind of connection are you ready for right now?”
Boundaries & Green Flags
- Green: consistent effort, honest timelines, respect for no/slow.
- Boundary: “I like you; I’m pacing this for clarity. If that doesn’t work for you, I understand.”
Final Thoughts
Slow love isn’t anti-romance—it’s pro-safety. You can still fall hard; you’ll just land on something real.
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