Didn’t Like Your Online Date? Here’s What to Do (Without Being a Jerk)
So you finally met someone from a dating app — and it just didn’t click.
You’re asking: “I didn’t like my online date — what should I do?”
Here’s how to handle it without ghosting, guilt-tripping, or dragging it out longer than it needs to be.
1. Don’t Fake Interest “To Be Nice”
You don’t owe anyone a second date just to be polite. Lying helps no one and wastes their time — and yours.
Be honest with yourself. Don’t force it if it’s not there.
2. Don’t Ghost Either
Ghosting might feel easier, but it leaves the other person confused, frustrated, and hurt.
It’s common, but still disrespectful — especially after meeting in real life.
3. Keep It Short, Kind, and Clear
Here’s all you need to say:
“Hey, I’m glad we got to meet. I didn’t feel a spark, but I wish you the best.”
No fake compliments or over-apologizing needed. Just keep it real.
4. Don’t Wait Days to Say It
Send the message within 24 hours. The longer you wait, the more it starts to feel like ghosting.
Even if it stings, they’ll appreciate the honesty.
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5. Don’t Ask for Friendship If You Don’t Mean It
Saying “let’s be friends” sounds nice, but if you don’t mean it, it’s confusing and unfair.
Only offer friendship if you genuinely want to hang out without romance involved.
6. Trust Your Gut (Even If They Seem Great)
They may be attractive, successful, and check all the boxes — but if something feels off, trust yourself.
Don’t try to logic yourself into liking someone.
7. Reflect Without Overthinking
It’s okay if you didn’t like them. Ask yourself:
- Were you truly open-minded?
- Were you comparing them to someone else?
- Were you distracted or anxious?
Sometimes it’s not about them — it’s about your own readiness.
8. If They Follow Up, Be Consistent
If they message again trying to plan another date, stick to your original answer:
“I really don’t want to lead you on. You seem cool — just not my match.”
Don’t give mixed signals. You’re not sparing feelings by being vague.
9. Use It as a Win (Even If It Felt Like a Waste)
Every date teaches you something — even the weird ones. That’s not wasted time.
You stayed honest, and that’s a win.
10. Stay Open for the Next One
One bad date doesn’t mean online dating is doomed or that you’re forever single.
Shake it off. Swipe again. Keep your standards clear and your heart open.
Final Word: Didn’t Like Your Online Date?
Say “thank you” and “no” — clearly and kindly.
Dating is trial and error. You’re not a villain for being honest.
Stop overthinking it. Let it go and keep moving.