Is it OK to date your friend's ex? Things to Keep in Mind while Dating your Friend’s ex.
If
Gossip Girl and some other shows have taught us anything, it is that dating
your best friend’s ex is always going to be complicated. But, as much as we believe,
we don’t always have a choice in who we fall for. As the saying goes, the heart
wants what it wants! So, how should we navigate this tricky situation? Should
you lie about it and sneak around? Or should you be open about it? Well, to
answer these questions we should list down some things that you should keep in
mind if you're dating your friend's ex!
Be Open & Honest About It
Lying
to your best friend about dating their ex to avoid conflict may sound good, but
it will only be problematic for you down the line. Sneaking around shouldn’t be
an option if you have love and respect for your BFF. Yes, your bestie might be
hurt by this news first, but to be honest with your friend from the get-go is
the best thing to do. It would be a sensible thing to accept that the situation
might never be comfortable for either of you, but being open about it is the
right thing to do.
Don’t Trash Talk
Asking
your partner for advice when you are fighting with your friend is one thing,
but trash-talking about them is another. Particularly if their relationship didn’t
end on a good note and you’re sure you’ll get a sympathetic ear.
Don’t Overthink
Please
do not act like a jealous girlfriend and keep your boyfriend and best friend
apart just because you’re scared that they might have feelings for each other. You
should show faith in both your relationships and trust your friend and
boyfriend.
Don’t Enquire About Their Relationship
It
can be pretty tempting to ask your friend about what went wrong between them so
that you can not make the same mistakes, but please avoid doing it. In fact, you
should not ask your partner for any details either. That relationship is
between them, so it is sensible if you don’t dig into their past and focus on
your relationship.