Let this be a message to the women who've been told they're "crazy," "overreacting," or just too much: You’re not. You're overwhelmed, overstimulated, and not being heard—and that's valid.
1. When “Crazy” Is a Shortcut for Ignoring Pain
Women have long been dismissed with labels like “crazy” or “hysterical” to avoid taking emotional expression seriously—and worse, to gaslight real needs into fiction. This not only invalidates emotional experience but also silences truth.([turn0search4]—Refinery29; [turn0search14]—Doctor NerdLove)
2. Overstimulation: What It Feels Like, and Why It’s Real
Overstimulation happens when your senses (and emotions) get more input than your brain can process. This isn’t exaggeration—it’s biology. Feeling irritable, foggy, drained, or suddenly snapping isn’t “crazy”—it’s a warning signal your nervous system sends when it’s overwhelmed.
3. More Than Just Sensory Overload
It’s not always about noisy spaces or bright lights. Emotional overload—mental load, to-do overwhelm, emotional labor—also feeds overstimulation. When your mental bank is emptied by decisions, relationships, expectations, you feel it in your body: exhaustion, frustration, shutdown.
4. When Emotional Reactions Get Misread
When women respond—emotionally—to overstimulation or under-recognition, they are often labeled irrational. But what might feel like an emotional eruption can be a physiological reaction: adrenaline, cortisol, stress flooding the body—especially when there's no space to rest or reflect.
5. You Deserve Validation—not Dismissal
- Know you’re not exaggerating: Irritability, confusion, tears—they’re not signs of instability. They're cues to your nervous system that you're maxed out.
- Recognise the burden of being unheard: Explaining yourself when you're drained is like trying to speak underwater.
- Seek emotional validation: When someone really hears you, says “I see this is hard,” it helps soothe overstimulation.
6. Shared Voices—and What They Say
Online, women describe being labeled “too emotional” when they speak up:
“I think of it as simply being too honest. When I've tried to hold someone accountable, they deflected and called me dramatic.”
This isn’t drama—it’s disruption of silence and discomfort calling for attention. It matters.
7. How to Heal When You’re Overstimulated and Unheard
- Create boundaries: Implement sensory breaks—quiet time, reduced screen contact, time to process.
- Use words of validation: Phrases like, “That sounds overwhelming,” or “You deserve to be understood”—these help your nervous system recalibrate.
- Prioritise self-care rituals: Gentle walks, deep breaths, journaling—these moments help down-regulate overstimulation.
- Find allies who listen: Being heard deeply—not just tolerated—is emotionally salvaging.
8. Final Thought: Your Reality Isn’t a Burden
You’re not “crazy.” You’re human. You feel deeply, often without being seen. Overstimulation isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. And validation—“I hear you”—is not too much to ask. You deserve that compassionate pause. Always.
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Explore how to cultivate grounding presence in our article Mindful Presence and learn tools for emotional validation in Emotional Validation.
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