How to handle seeing your ex with someone new isn’t something they teach you in school—but it’s one of the most gut-wrenching emotional curveballs life throws your way. Whether it’s a random Insta post or you run into them at a bar, the sting is real—and so is the urge to spiral.
But this moment doesn’t have to break you. Here’s how to keep your dignity, protect your peace, and walk away stronger than ever.
1. Let yourself feel the initial hit
Denial won’t help. You’re allowed to feel hurt, jealous, angry, or blindsided. Don’t shame yourself for being human.
- Cry if you need to
- Vent to a friend (not on Instagram stories)
- Acknowledge: “This sucks—and that’s okay”
Feel it. Then move through it.
2. Do not react impulsively
Tempted to send a sarcastic text? Or subtweet something shady? Pause. Breathe. Delete.
- Silence says more than drama
- Reacting impulsively hands them emotional power
- It’s not your job to prove you’ve “moved on”
Power is quiet. Keep yours.
3. Remind yourself: Their new partner isn’t your competition
This isn’t a game. They didn’t “win.” No one can replace you. This is simply a chapter shift—for them, and for you.
Comparison leads to insecurity. Self-worth ends it.
4. Ask yourself: “Would I actually want them back?”
Sometimes the pain isn’t about them—it’s about the ego hit.
- Were they emotionally available?
- Did you feel safe, seen, and loved?
- Or were you holding onto the idea of them?
Let go of the fantasy. Anchor in reality.
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5. Unfollow, mute, block—whatever brings peace
Digital exposure = emotional triggers. You don’t owe them continued access to your feed—or your mental health.
- Mute their stories
- Block if it helps you heal
- Curate your feed like your life depends on it
Because sometimes, it does.
6. Focus on your own healing—not their timeline
They moved on? Cool. But that’s not your race to run. Focus on:
- Journaling, therapy, self-care
- Reconnecting with hobbies and people you love
- Rebuilding self-trust
The best glow-up is internal, not Instagrammed.
7. Don’t take their new relationship personally
It’s not a reflection of your worth. It doesn’t mean you were “replaceable.” People move on at different speeds—for different reasons.
Let them go. Not because they deserve it—but because you do.
Stats that validate what you're feeling
- 71% of people feel emotional distress when they see their ex with someone new (Psych Today, 2024)
- Nearly 40% report intrusive thoughts or anxiety after seeing a new partner online
- Breakup recovery improves by 45% when you block or mute your ex on social media
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How to handle seeing your ex with someone new? You feel it, you ground yourself, and you move on—without losing your light. Because closure isn’t something they give you. It’s something you create. For you.